We hold these truths to be self-evident
that all people are created equal.

All the filler down by their
Creator with certain a union of man

rights and a man vs All right.

If.
Liberty and

the pursuit Do you
remember your high school.

SIMIC school yes let's spend
a few more minutes today to

get the experience made yours and

attitude can opt to Mars the probability.

That we human beings can be truly happy.

Now who are should we do this.

To me is and

several years ago the Princeton Review
did a survey of major colleges and

universities to find out on average
how happy their student bodies were.

Best which college screwer best second
most unhappy were the right good.

If they were off to a worse.

That's not our best Texas A and M. was for

that's not bad because here's where
you have a good quality of life but

maybe in Parliament where you have
to revert to get your degree and

when you rock at it the degree is
actually something the more tended to

be less happy the party is of
course rated themselves very very

happy but there's a second more important
reason we need to look at happiness.

Statistically valid studies chair.

That people who rate themselves
as consistently happy have

less money misses by headaches and
stomach aches and cone wars and

less major illnesses like heart
attacks and strokes and cancer.

It's called a mind body connection and
Frances is a health class.

It behooves us to look at this.

And you took the room service.

A As part of this class.

You just getting remember.

That tells you how happy you are eight
years from zero to forty five happiest

thirty five zeroes unhappy.

So you already have an index as
to how happy you are we will see

how the material in this lecture applies
to you based on your Happiness Score.

My name is most important and all of
the seventy odd years I've been all wrong.

I have all me the first eighteen of
them were not associated with George or

Ted just like you I was a student here
back in the late fifty's early sixty's

becoming educated in physics nuclear
science nuclear to neighboring.

Went to protect went to work to take in
sixty eight as assistant dean of students.

And that's right.

I took things as assistant dean of
students it became obvious that my

knowledge of protons neutrons corkscrew
on to a neutron to fusion equations

was perhaps not the best background to
help Tech students achieve their goals.

So I went back to
Georgia State University and

became educated in counseling in
psychology with a focus on what

you read about development and
adolescence psychology and

it's from that background much of this
afternoon symposium will be drawn.

OK.

I became director of what's now the Office

of International Education in
the early eighty's and I retired to

take in one nine hundred ninety
eight after thirty years of service.

My three years I was there were
twenty seven clubs and organizations.

I read day almost five years
five is a grad student.

I founded in its present form.

And in that capacity took a sabbatical
from Georgia Tech in one thousand nine

hundred two and hike with two thousand
one hundred and seventy hours of

the Appalachian Trail in eighty seven days
an incredible experience I have I have

saved founded steady bad in its present
form and in that capacity in ninety four

I was the first to really defer the cities
to And the onsite director at Oxford.

Then in ninety six I.

Did the when to quit or down and
up which is the study abroad

program then known as the Pacific program
where you go to Australia New Zealand to

play in China the islands really
fantastic which tell you all that and I

still read too as even after I had retired
on up through the early two thousand.

Now I told what psychology
ten ten a really

great coworker throughout the ninety's
it was the psychology of adjustment

to college ally Great course that was
a precursor to G.T. one thousand.

I stayed here so
I was advised that I had to

advise the present Scholars Program
guest lecturer for tribes classes and

organizations and
as a mentor to Tech students.

Now that's a little bit about me I
knew that I was going about you.

I mean your freshman heads up
a smattering how many of sophomores

more OK juniors a good number seniors

all you said the best ally I have had to
graduate and it's getting close right now.

How many of you are in state hands out.

That's what you are if you
have any out of state.

Cryosphere NO HOPE scholarship player but
out of state.

How many argued live on campus hands up.

That's most if you have any of it
off campus mostly upperclassman and

you rode in a car visionary and
mechanical electrical chemical

it's about head for the College of
Science math chemistry biology physics.

Knowledge of computing
the representation out and

out in college level
studies knowledge bases

ministration just change the name
College of Architecture and fine arts.

OK you're normative that's pretty much
the standard distribution in Georgia Tech

they are how many of you as a result
of your homework assignment know or

have access to.

You must make start your absolute
control your hostility square or and

your status back to life score.

You mean about it.

Come on you to nor
do you know the access to it.

You wouldn't have to bear
in today's sim problems.

Are a ray of gold and
a gamble like the fast.

I was leading a back pack for
all I J fade out your recreation door to

Ted Now he's back packs
they have on the weekend.

You leave campus Saturday morning drive
to the trailhead hike all day Saturday

camp out Saturday night.

Hikmat extended morning drive
back to take Sunday afternoon and

you steady Sunday night.

OK when you're with everybody.

There better too.

On pit for thirty six hours.

You get to know everybody pretty well.

And we will hike in back to the cars and

behind me was a delightful
freshman named Scott and

out of the clear blue Scott says May
are you see Mike a very happy person.

And yet you're not married.

How do you explain that.

Now in psychology this was
known as a teachable moment.

And here's how I answer is God I had said
God I have tons of friends I have friends

who are married who
are very very happy and

I have friends who are married who are so
happy.

They may not stay married very long and
I prince who is single.

Who are very very happy they can
go when and where they want to and

I have friends who are single
who are miserable they

feel like they're lonely all of
them time and scut I have put

into Richard Roth really happy they
have everything their heart desires and

I have friends who are rich who will
slit wrists tomorrow in all probability

because I am or do spend their time
worrying about Will I lose my ass the.

It's a lot as my assets and
Scott I have friends who are poor or.

The billion happy.

They don't have the basic
necessities of life.

And I have friends who are poor
as church mice who are incredibly

happy they really thankful for
what they do I am and

Scott here's where the rubber hits
the road on their Tech students who have

a very very happy they feel like
they would see their potential and

I know Tech students have a four who
are absolute neutrally miserable.

They have no life.

They go to class they study
they sleep eat at it and

I know students who have a two zero
zero zero are really miserable

they can let let themselves
down let their parents down.

They're not doing well.

But Scott I know students who have it
too who are happy but yon believe.

They are to me they party.

And so we went through just a litany of
more opposite people who live in the city

live in the country or people who
are attractive people at home and

when I got to this it's got how do you
deduce from this and he being pretty sure

I've said you know our happiness probably
doesn't depend on external circumstances.

It's something inside of you and
I said you get a gold star

that really got to do is look at
the Raben characteristics of happy people

as determined by the research
I've begun my as an Ed Diener.

These are two psychologists
known as the group of happiness.

Who have steadied tape ends I have
reasons of people in America.

Japan and Western Europe.

Tens of thousands but gave him the same
little satisfaction with a large scale

you have that you had for as one hundred
mark assignment for this guy asked.

And in addition to that they ask him
a good zillion questions about themselves

and in a car light their scooter
with the answers to the questions.

And what they found is.

There are six characteristics
that happy people and

where they are what almost always heo and
there found more that

appear with a high enough frequency that
it's worth giving some attention to it and

it's interesting if you squint or
May on that scale you unhappy.

And that had better than most people to
what they found was the unpack the people

the characteristics were either
the absence or the opposite of

the characteristics of the happy people so
that was good information both ways.

And so from this research we
can see a lot of cool stuff.

Now this is Sam patent we
don't give it to you and for

we do overseas I'm going to you probably.

Number two just type
the eleven main points

in some of the some points in
your laptop or write them down.

This will reinforce that if you actually
go through this process of typing or

writing and number three.

You don't post modern lecture notes on
the class web page after the rector and

you can print it out.

You have it very thoroughly
visually I'm sorry.

In addition to bubbly and so you can
look at it if you're a visual learner so

you have all three.

And before we start we always ask what
comes first the chicken in a big moving.

Do you think perhaps people are bear
with a genetic proclivity to be happy.

We find all kinds of things about
people who've been in the genome.

Maybe some sports fans
bad it doesn't matter.

But not if you buy into a proclivity
to happiness therefore you do you

just assume these eleven characteristics
whatever you're having this is what I

mean the one where by
developing it's here first.

If you can rise above it by not
doing it you can fall below it.

It's up to you.

And happiness as you have probably
gathered is a big deal in

our society here Time magazine
cover story on happened it's

really good but nerves are going
to have a reference to a lot.

Of material the notes
published on the class weapon.

Would take if you are how
you can find this.

Magazine online follow a really good
credit reach out about half in the Senate.

The Economist published was a rod comes
out of London published all over the world

cover story Happiness Happiness
is a big deal.

I'm going to give you a matter we
have a references in the lecture and

they're all in the notes you
don't have to copy and I am.

And I'm going to give you
the characteristics in random order.

But I did use number we
had maybe one in Myers and

Dana did the research with this
group was never a fair war and

what was five was number three
etc These are random or.

So let us begin first characteristic
of happy people they love

themselves in psychobabble business
call having high self-esteem.

And a student is in college you know.

You drive yourself into rays
with your mind and your body.

You know yourself with your mind through
practice Kalpana stage self-taught.

In my farm for
good food if you don't believe this.

I suggest you get rid of it and
Roland Burris.

Plastic self-taught.

You simply talk out loud or
you are not quite as good you mentally go

through it you pat yourself on
the back when you've done good so far.

When you come out of a quiet
holding in your hand a quiz that

has not just an A on it.

It's got a one hundred.

Great opportunity for
a positive self taught.

You look at one hundred and you say
you know this is a Bell had patients.

The fact that I've got it together
academic I know how to study I know

the importance of getting
sleep before quizzes and

other course going to
choirs doing homework.

I know how to do all the academic stuff.

This tells me.

I've got it together academically.

That's process after a bit reinforcing or

you go to some gathering a wedding
reception a party or whatever.

People are milling around talking.

And you find somebody who is.

Just as bad or
met tricity between the two of you and

when the event is over when you say
wow I really enjoyed meeting you.

Let's meet at Starbucks Friday at three
and take I have been where we left off and

better post and say is absolutely.

I suppose you are getting to know you and
talk and

you seem like a really neat person.

And you walk away from it
with positive self thought.

You say it's so cool that I know
how to find balance with people

that I know the importance of smiling and
being a good listener.

And talking in terms of their interests.

That's really good but I'm socially adroit
to the point where when I would interact

with people they want to continue that
interaction positive self to do it.

Number two when I was helping a body.

And you start off by giving I have really.

Demographically age
group that rule the best

eight to ten hours sleep per night but
minimum seven to highway.

And you know if you're not getting
this it would be really great for

you to make a calendar and
schedule and put sleep on there.

So you start getting into a really
important minimum seven hundred number two

you got to the body right
you are nutrition in

this quiet number through
you've got to exercise it.

And we've done research right good tech
and health and performance science that

has proved beyond a shadow of a doubt
exercise increases self-esteem we know

there are a number of you
can improve substances.

You can not abuse substances.

Those are the fairways you
love yourself with your body.

Second characteristic of happy people
is they have all about the paddle.

Now here in your mind's ribs type
comes into play sports fans.

You will have to do you mass break
type head home heart to this quiet.

Fan letters first letters an urn I.

If your first why doesn't he.

That means you prefer.

To focus on the whole outside of
yourself and the people in it and

to love those people.

If you and
I meet you prefer to focus inward and

then it'll raise it with a good
beverage and a magazine and read and

think about your about your philosophies
your thoughts you look inward.

Both sides can run don't have other
people it's just a little easier for

an easy and I have to put a little
emotional energy into it.

So the only way or how you monitor it.

Type of affects your ability to love a lot
of people now a lot of preparing them for

things that are really
important member A and

if you want to become a master
in sports fans I mean a master.

Family bonds with other people.

I suggest you grow on
not to the bookstore.

And get two books one copy of
Bill Carnegie's How to Win Friends and

Influence People came up with six
principles that cause people to like

each other good is the 1930's and
since the end sociologist and psychologist

had a heyday with those principles have
validated all of they really work.

Ready.

Mr and that hundred seventy those
psychologists manual Smith discovered.

But you have to say I have to scrape the
corner you miss there you have to share

yourself with other people and
get them to share themselves with you and

therefore this is really well
written out in the when I send off

feel guilty by manual smear the importance
of self disclosure her putting together

got seven principles to those if you want
to learn how to form bonds with people.

Number two the second thing
about having other people.

The Norden psychologist
Harriet stack seven.

Has what we psychologists call
the behavior definition of law.

It comes in several different
forms has a five a like.

The rabbinate comparison is to
be committed to helping the US.

I'm not part of anything they want to
be in the present and become everything

they want to become in the future not
about me it's about the other person and

of course when two people have
this kind of land for each other.

It's awesome.

But there was greater than
the sum of its parts and

sports fans I don't know if you've
ever been in the Russian share our

interactions you have to want
to be in a relationship.

If you want insight to
have been this deeper

sense you have got to do it the rubbish
travelled us got paid around for

thirty years incredible it only got to
the chapter second chapter is low and

he gives insight to this and said to
have been this deeper meaning you cannot

believe this is so important that if it
were going to other state of Georgia.

I would be the legislature
to say in Georgia.

You can't get a marriage
license until you've

passed a written test in the lab
chapter of the road less traveled.

It's very poor pay.

If you have to take a written
test to get a driver's license.

How much more important in our
society are stable families the it was

rather color straight line.

It would cut the divorce
rate in in my opinion.

So you do that comment about law here
in the universe this majority of.

We have a fabulous
centenarian Research Group.

We study the Georgians who
lived to be one hundred and

we found out all the cool things about
it but one thing they all had in common.

They had pasta Russian ships
with friends and family.

They had learned to have a people.

And one of the it was also that
they lived to be one hundred.

And lastly.

The great musical sort of
Fortune fifty's or what not.

I say to Guy Ritchie Rodgers and
Oscar Hammerstein.

They wrote sound to me South Pacific
carousel feel about an album.

It has been said that Richard Rodgers.

The family value had to A for
it in one favorite where Here it is.

I bet it's not a banana peel you ring it.

So it's not a sad song to you saying it.

And the Lord in your heart
wasn't put there to stay

calm as the law isn't to you give it away.

That's one of the few things in
the world my fine fellow free and

such at the moment you're
given a fair bit you have

to others hate the more you hate
the most hateful person you become and

I think you are the more you manifested
behavioral characteristics and

anger the moment angry person you
become I vote for the characteristic

of happy people they believe that
they are in control of their life.

Took no locus of control test and
you screwed you the internal or external

If you screw an external locus of control
that means you kind of Marilyn's believe

you really born in the we're all you can
do is react what goes on around you but

the crew who stick to external
locus of control is the person

doesn't believe there is any color in
between their effort in their outcome.

No matter how hard or
how learned by the way work.

The outcome is Redwood dice
internal locus of control.

How about believes I best of
my fate captain of my so.

If I want something to happen.

You better believe I'm
going to make it happen and

that my effort correlates directly with
my outcome but this in perspective.

Take two students well into a lot for

Lex don't want to control their medical I
asked them a quiz that both Mike and A.

Student with the internal locus
of control looks at the A and

said this I knew this mature call.

I studied for

roots before the quiz I got sleep
the night before came to have a classes.

Did I had a whole new art.

I knew the material.

No I earn the student an extra
low control looks at the area and

says Well why don't you know
that dice roll up in my favor.

I just happened to study
the subject that the professor

quiz us about on the TED I could have
just as easily failed had he gone

another direction as though his efforts
had nothing to do with the outcome.

And it's probably no surprise to you.

Tomorrow or that if we take a possum
college students with an external locus of

control and average their G.P.A.
and take a fountain college student with

an internal locus of control and advantage
then G.P.A. in turn will be higher.

When you have to test to be valid groups
behind the internal locus of control

of the higher the G.P.S. So if you scored
really due to the really extra mile.

You don't have a good G.P.A.
You can go to counseling and

go through some exercises
that make you more internal.

I recommended and
of characteristic use the optimistic.

And let's find this by coming
at it from the direction.

With what's called
a series sounds a mantra.

But his suicide does him or herself.

They say to him say it was I'm
very good you will never good.

The way I was no good and tomorrow.

It's not going to bed.

I'm probably going to be worse.

But the optimist said I'm great.

You're great rough great
to Mars can be even better.

And optimism is a really big deal in
our society we do research about it.

Here's a research paper for law and
what University of California at

Berkeley research found that optimism
associated alarm goes right.

How about them apples
people over fifty who is

a positive experience with an average
of seven point five years with A.M.D.

have been those who did not this much was
optimised had half the risk of only bad.

OK I'll vote for
that one gust of those CROSSFIRE.

Then those who were mixed or pessimistic

optimist had fewer problems as they
a few limitations less pain more energy.

And if you're not sure whether or
not you are optimistic.

You are for and your friends want
to you know you're a pessimist or

you're an optimist.

If you're pessimistic.

They'll grab the boat
lowered optimism by mail.

You see going from testing good
stuff adequate is where you can

find out how optimistic or pessimistic
you are and if you're pessimistic to

take you to a series of exercises
it'll make you more optimistic.

So be optimistic highly
desirable characteristic

of heavy people it is they
focus on the outside of it.

So I don't know that this is
the Myers Briggs type again that's almost

the definition of the preference.

If you're any you prefer to focus
on the world outside of yourself.

And I was just a small motor on energy and

you had a good the focus on

the role of Saudi your sales study showed
that three are particularly important.

Number on the evidence
Yaba get a job human

beings operate better within structure and
I just give your life structure.

Hey you got a job right now where is

it a student at Georgia Tech
pursuing your degree.

And then only it doesn't
give you a life structure.

Up at seven Challenge right first
class today try to set nine.

Go to lottery and

study from ten to twelve blocks from
Ground Zero won class from one to two.

From two to ten or go to say R.C.
and work out four to five relax on

a six supper six to seven hang out
with friends seven to twelve study.

Next day repeat it give structure to
your life you know you can't believe and

it's a good thing in American society.

A job is important in a different right.

It's part of our identity.

How many times have you introduce yourself
and write to your parents introduced you.

They dread Goodwood to a free and
at a wedding reception and said

hey I want you to meet my daughter Sally
she's a mechanical engineer George day.

That's your job right now mechanic
engineering and they tack that onto your

name as part of your identity or you
meet somebody into some of the gathering

in the person says writings Ignatius be
done living I'm an engineer with Lockheed.

They tack their job barn
as part of their identity.

So it is a big deal.

Our second way purpose on
the world outside of your sale

is to enjoy the power of.

Which now in this age of sexual
harassment we must be careful

how we use the power touch OK.

Got to be careful but psychologists and

sociologists had a really crap crawl
back in the only nineteen hundreds.

When For
now they had no better bees were dying in

Africa years in London and
they were not genetically deformed

they were not starved they were not
malnourished they were not sick.

I just died when the Ministry of
Health sent people in to investigate.

He found that the babies who
were dying were not changed.

They were given a bottle Persephone So

it was placed between their lips their
diapers were changed very quickly.

But they were never picked up inhaled
the babies who were picked up and

head off the loom into those who were
not touched died it was a wake up call

touch is really important as a lot to it
here in our present society tetchy is

really only appropriate into
a ritual touch which is a handshake.

And if a bond of trust exists.

Band of trust with your mom and dad so

when you have a similar
time you give them a big.

You tussle with your brothers and

sisters you put it on brownish over and
over sorority sister attorney brother

because a board of trust is they
are without a bond of trust.

It's not appropriate.

It's really interesting that the American
daily Association asked the dairy

farmers you know the guys that have two
different four and want to milk a cow and

they have both a fabulous ritual and
a big bond of trust.

I did a volunteer you'll do stand up.

Stand side raise where they
can see is that see it now but

Sam when you go in for interviews
before we talk about the dairy farmers

big Should you give a strong handshake.

Communicate self-confidence
characteristics have a strong handshake

the ritual touch this skinfold when
the found in the finger must guide such

bang say that that's a strong handshake.

If that's good for
a bad touch then fish then fish.

If if the interviewer tries
to give it to you man.

You put it back and do it again where
you make the handshake strong and

that's women and men.

Have to have a strong handshake.

Were the best of the American Association
these guys get together they used

to milking cows a point in the morning
they have a really great handshake.

Do this and so the members of the American
daily Association shake hands like this.

John is that I am going
to thank you thank you so

much but enjoyed the power to
legitimately OK And the third right.

You focused outside of yourself.

If you give me good.

You may not realize this but

in college but can't remember
the of giving to others in have.

And in little ways.

If you give a good ROI You can
give up eight ten twelve precious

hours of your study time doing the read.

Tutorial to tutor an underprivileged
kid in math and reading

that's that's give it a big way or give
up the weekends to help build a house for

a less fortunate family to Habitat for
Humanity.

You can give in the ways you come back
from the post office the really going to

care package your grandmother has just
sent you and you meet a lot befit now

afraid and
you say here have a chocolate chip cookie.

That's given in a little boy who both.

Have been big ways given little boy.

And the six characteristic
of happy people is.

They say fair.

Until I find it.

But you and
I both know that normally in our society.

People who find meaning find it as
an expression of religious faith but

there's other ways to
find meaning in life.

What's interesting to me is.

When I said to do the same I
have a place for comments and

it's not only uncommon for
people to write a comment something like

this because I search for
meaning in life and found it.

I believe these are the characteristics
that I've written out in this survey.

But came possible.

I love myself.

I love other people.

I am optimistic etc
That's a big better six

all others appear when my hours and dinner
do their research find out there's a P.

it with a high enough frequency
to be worth our time.

Number seven.

You gotta live round they have
a time in psychobabble this is car

present moment living thinking
about it yesterday is gone.

Nothing we can do will bring
it back to Barbara who

may not be here at least
not in the form we are.

Today you sports fans is all we got so
you got to make the most of it.

So when years ago actually two
decades ago the number one hit

on the Country Music list of hits was
a song in Title live one day at a time

it was great word to great music probably
funnier not to live one day at a time.

We're not saying that for you.

But I will repeat some of the words
it said tomorrow may never be

shared be the way to teach me today
to live one day at a time and

you know a lot of students
are great at this.

I have seen on the Tech campus
on several occasions T.-Shirt

one of the featured say if you
focused on living for today

car pay do you know what does
that mean sees the bed a you're

already in your city there also have
seen some rather shady looking students

moping around campus where your teacher
it's a incorporated note but night.

Yes.

But contrary do you see is that really
the border the present moment living now.

Right.
Stock that's present moment living well

before the day I mean I don't
have to worry about next week's

physics is really really
NO NO NO NO NO NO because in my handy

dandy day planner friend got all my
day's activities written it says tonight

from eight to ten study for
next week's physics quiz.

Is it moment living does not absolve
us from to most responsibility but

it does make life pretty special
a characteristic of happy people use they

laugh and smile alive or as I believe it.

I have read more to sell us.

Let me put it wasn't around
who are in time saves

not an apple a day keeps the doctor why.

When I am your destiny
lose my right she is.

The time you need most to laugh and smile.

Is the time you feel like laughing and
smiling.

You don't feel like it so
you do it right and

it brings you up a characteristic
of happy people.

Night characteristic of happy people and
this is a big one sports fans.

They are very good.

SAF defeating behaviors.

Now this is pretty heavy psychologically
I hesitate to lay it on you but

I'm going to anyway.

Self-defeating behaviors and psychology
is defined as a behavior that has a new

paragraph but
the lamb consequence is negative.

And I want you to remember
the fine standard self-defeating

behaviors that happy people who
have head like they play egg.

A.B.C. Gone With The Wind
that they are a do you see

Gone With The Wind A stands for anger or
our look at your hostility school or

let your anger subscale if your
anger subscale is more than seven.

That means anger is having
a negative effect on your life and

you need to do something about it and

I'm going to tell you the minute what you
can do about it but anger is generally

used to manipulate people all you
get angry at someone who had been

do something you didn't want to do on and
then do something you didn't want to do.

And so you're going to get every atom and

they get their act together and
do it or not do it.

That is it better than
because they'll get it done.

But they hate your guts a little bit.

That's why it's a self cleaning behavior
when you get angry at people that need it.

Payoff is it gets the job done.

The long term negative consequence
is people don't like you

is a bull I will always talk about what
happens if you have high anger score.

First of all and
I suggest you go grab the incredible book.

This was a number one on the net.

One fiction bestseller list when it first
came out its way into your erode your so.

Now it's not a good book.

It's not your erogenous Is it
your in ready to sound that is

tongue in cheek terminology for
self-defeating behaviors.

And he has a chapter
about every one of them

anger blaming complaining they
have given away money money good.

Larry jealousy Procrastination is
a chapter about everyone else why we do

what short term payoff what the long
term negative consequences is and

how to eliminate it.

So if you really are letting anger
have too big a part of your life then

read the anger chapter in a Roni
it sounds it will help but

then wrote to get counseling
if I had then wrote

my email address is on the Pass notes it's
going to be published on the web page.

You may or may we need a Starbucks for
coffee and

I will help you not just manage anger.

I can help you get rid of anger.

So that's the first one A.B.C.
go with it when.

Second self defeating behavior is
blaming you not the modern era

once in payment and
the UP be granted that mother who did it.

So that's the immediate
payoff if I sit around and

bloody not have to do any work for

the long term consequences militant groups
all over everybody in the floor not good.

Writing don't do it.

Comply or having.

Complaining really bad.

The median pay off when you complain
about something is you not today.

Think about it long term consequences.

Since you didn't do anything about it.

Whatever you're complaining about still
exists and when I'm leading a backpack for

G.T..

I encourage the students not to say I'm so
hard it's too hard.

Now you don't do that as complaining you
put your bottle of your he is you take on

and you want more slowly.

You sit down and rest.

Yeah you say you want to piss.

Complaining.

Change the circumstance about
which you are complaining.

That's the name of the game.

A.B.C. God with the we're in and G.
and WS in psychology.

Do you have Bab yer opposite sides
of the same psychological plane G.

is good it wasting American energy or
something happened the path.

Bubba is away every wasting American hear
something that might happen in the future

but I'm useless.

Instead of being a good thing you say
that was have been I'm not going to do it

anymore and you get on with life instead
of where are you an observation about

the critics creators they are what you
do instead of that emotional energy

betting you get ready for
the careers where they go.

So happy people are valid self-defeating
behaviors are happy people.

Number ten.

And this is tough.

I have found for
a lot of people in Georgia today.

Happy people take time to waste
time they take time to waste and

your mind is really tight
comes into play here.

If you're an espied here and an ass.

To you right after you're an S.P.
You are still having

your similar time you can drop
anything in the week I've been on and

go have find that you are blessed if
you're an S.P. If you're into just say.

As a lot of tech students or

any combination of then you have
to schedule your leisure down.

You've got this great big fellow
devoted to wreak their sad you

finish Don't you care about eight
AM to eight pm Have fun and

hang out with friends do
nothing enjoy myself.

Relax go to movies
whatever you schedule it.

People take time to waste time.

In the eleven characteristic
of happy people.

It is they are great for Slash
thankful and I do this in three ways.

Let's test to you that if you
are thankful in these three ways move on.

You are fighting for to your friends and
family for their support both emotional

and financial results done you want
to mom and dad said mom and dad.

Thank you for
the finances you've put in to me.

Well I've been attacked and
thank you for the emotional support.

You've given me what you're going
to have you did in your bankroll to

friends and family.

Number two if you believe in a higher
priority to Frankfurt with a higher

power for the blessings it's
given you a number three.

This is not obvious but
it's really important.

You sit down and you think about your
state and you give thanks for it.

Frank live in a free country.

I'm thankful that I'm financially secure.

I'm thankful that I come from a good
source or not and I'm Frank for

a bit I'm good luck in the cycle
that I have lots of for and

he's in your state of being Be
thankful for your state of being so

this is been caught on like drinking
from a farm but we have learned a lot.

And all wrong.

What we're artists is obvious and
a lot is not obvious.

Let me show you what I'm talking
about when we write it is obvious.

Happiness is internal We take
it with us wherever we go by

having these attitudes and
doing these behaviors.

I guess what I'm asking
is is internal good will.

Where ever you go.

So awesome.

Just to vote for happiness number two.

This is kind of obvious.

We're free to choose.

We didn't just fall off the turnip truck.

We've already got some of
the characteristics of happy people.

OK you're free to choose if you
want to acquire all of these

things especially when if you
don't hire them if there is.

Let me help me.

This is a journey it's not a destination.

It's staff you do throughout your life.

It's a journey.

Say I'll be happy when I
have a million dollars.

Be happy when I married John or Susie.

That's a destination.

Happiness goes throughout your life.

Now there's one exception to bear.

There is an exemption to
happiness been a journey you

happy when you graduate from
Georgia to your R R R R R R R.

You should use it's getting close.

So you're going to have through
tasks my fine firewood for

our side for memorizing the content
of his lecture for the next ten.

Assignment Bant you gotta understand
that it is the ribbon factors in

Iraq where you.

Number two you have decide which ones you
got in there you got to decide if you want

to apply are the ones you don't get on.

Take it from moody.

If you choose this journey remember
it's not a destination it's a journey.

If you choose this journey.

You will find work for you arrived.

But we remain after the last
thermodynamic equation

has quietly slipped away
I suggest we go forward.

The old.